He said she said

I know that I already posted today but there is something that is kind of making me mad. According to these sites www.pobronson.com/, http://www.helium.com/, and http://www.wlbt.com/ Couples who live together have a higher rate for divorce, but when I looked at where they got this research from it is usually done by small groups with no actual evidence or clearly biased groups. Actually most of the articlesI Have found are against couples living together. I just find it odd that still in the year 2009 people are using UN-true scare tactics to push their own agenda. To me, it seems that you can not categorize people because we are all unique. Some people can live together for 5 years before marriage and then divorce, some can never live together and get divorced, and on the other hand I personally know people who live together for years and then get married and stay that way. I also know people who live together and will never get married and for them that is a perfect fit. I guess what I am trying to say is that everyone is different. Knowing this, it still makes sense to me that if you live with someone you know them in and out, and when the time comes or doesn't come to marry you know what is right for you. That being said, something else I was a little perturbed about was the agenda being pushed by some of these articles. Most of these articles were by religious groups who clearly had a motive to push there way of life.Being religious myself this upsets me because I do not believe in ever pushing your beliefs on anyone. In addition, they are using fabricated or untrustworthy facts.I Honestly, some things in life are not important enough to raise a fuss about. I can assure you that the world will not end if someone does something differently than you (i.e. couples living together). Well that is the end of my little rant, thanks for reading.

p.s. If anyone reading is also an unmarried couple living together good for you! I believe that we should do what makes US happy and not anyone else. Plus, I think it is smart to get to know your partner inside and out. Do you ever buy a shoe before trying it on? I don't :)

http://www.helium.com.(n.d).retreived/ May 28,2009:www.helium.com/debates/66022-should-couples-live-together-before-getting-married

http://www.probonson.com.(may2005/). Retreived May 28,2009:www.probonson.com/blog/2006/05/unmarried-couples-famlies-not-allowed 21.html

http://www.wlbt.com.(n.d.).retreived/ May 28, 2009: www.wlbt.com/global/story.asp?S=7971528

the road to success

I was browsing articles on the Internet when I came across this website http://www.msnbc.msn.com. In it, it explains some tips to have a successful "non married couple living together" relationship. The first tip was to make a domestic partner agreement which pretty much spells over everything from who takes out the trash, to who gets the house if the relationship ends. I thought this was interesting because although my boyfriend Chris and I do not have such a contract, we have an understanding about who does what. The next tip was to make sure that there was a financial plan. Chris and I have a 5 year plan that we are already 1 year and a half into. We are both going to school full time, working full time and splitting the bills.We have a very clear cut budget and we stuck to it almost perfectly. Once we are both finished school we plan to get better paying jobs, get a new apartment and maybe a new car for me (since I have an older car). The last tip was to have a joint bank account and yup we already did that too :) Basically, without knowing it, we are taking the right steps to make sure our relationship is successful. Kudos to us :)

http://www.msnbc.msn.com.(n.d/.). Retreived:May28,2009: www.msnbc.msn.com/id/8918526

like it or not, we are here to stay

First I want start off by giving an update on what is happening with us today, so here it is..
Alright we made a decision on the job, he is going to take the new position and see where it goes. Maybe it will help him in the long run. As for today we are trying to decide whether or not to renew our lease. Our neighbors are ridiculous, they have parties at all hours of the day and are constantly screaming. They have been out of town for about a week though, so i have enjoyed the peace and quiet. All in all today was another nice day in "living together land", which brings me to an article I read at http://www.time.com/
This article is about how an increasing number of people are living together(happily) and are not married. There is actually about 5 million unmarried people living together, which is a 200% increase since 1980. It also says that these relationships are almost exactly like the relationships of married couples (just without all the legal stuff). Another thing that I thought was interesting was how it stated that the family members of these unmarried couples usually do not support them. I can relate to this because my family is 50/50 on the subject, some like it some do not. It is mostly the older family members who have a problem with this (the same applies to me as well). In a nutshell the article is just commenting on the changing times, and acknowledging that society is once again changing.

http://www.time.com.(n.d/.) Retreived March, 2009 : www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,426046,00.html

Ours

Ok, About a week ago my boyfriend got offered another position at his job. It is not really a raise because he will not get a pay increase but he will have more of a work load. So we have been talking about it and trying to come up with a decision. We still have not come up with an answer and I have no idea why it is taking us so long. I think that this relates to an article I read at http://financialplan.about.com
In it, it says that unmarried couples living together should keep their finances seperate. It also says that you should not invest in anything major like a house or car. I personally disagree on this, because if you are living together, you obviously are starting a life with this person and plan to be together for a long time. Also, it is almost impossible to not put your money together for things, I mean you all live together so there are going to be bills. I also think that it is not healthy for a relationship to seperate "yours" from "mine", because although you are not married you still have that sense of "ours". On a lighter note we did buy a bunny rabbit today.

www.financialplan.about.com.(N.D.). Retreives March 2009: www.financialplan.about.com/cs/unmarriedcouples/a/sohappytogether.htm

A little about this Blog

Hey!
This is my blog documenting all the ups and downs and everything in between that comes along with moving in with my boyfriend. It's a huge step, and I am sure that anyone can tell you that at first it's not easy, but in time things fall into place. When you first move in with your special someone your not sure what to expect, all you know is that this is exactly who and where you want to be and be with. The things that pop up can be fun and crazy at times, and on the other hand hard and a little stressful. Regardless of all these things you love every single solitary minute of it. So with that said, I hope you enjoy reading about my life. :)