He said she said

I know that I already posted today but there is something that is kind of making me mad. According to these sites www.pobronson.com/, http://www.helium.com/, and http://www.wlbt.com/ Couples who live together have a higher rate for divorce, but when I looked at where they got this research from it is usually done by small groups with no actual evidence or clearly biased groups. Actually most of the articlesI Have found are against couples living together. I just find it odd that still in the year 2009 people are using UN-true scare tactics to push their own agenda. To me, it seems that you can not categorize people because we are all unique. Some people can live together for 5 years before marriage and then divorce, some can never live together and get divorced, and on the other hand I personally know people who live together for years and then get married and stay that way. I also know people who live together and will never get married and for them that is a perfect fit. I guess what I am trying to say is that everyone is different. Knowing this, it still makes sense to me that if you live with someone you know them in and out, and when the time comes or doesn't come to marry you know what is right for you. That being said, something else I was a little perturbed about was the agenda being pushed by some of these articles. Most of these articles were by religious groups who clearly had a motive to push there way of life.Being religious myself this upsets me because I do not believe in ever pushing your beliefs on anyone. In addition, they are using fabricated or untrustworthy facts.I Honestly, some things in life are not important enough to raise a fuss about. I can assure you that the world will not end if someone does something differently than you (i.e. couples living together). Well that is the end of my little rant, thanks for reading.

p.s. If anyone reading is also an unmarried couple living together good for you! I believe that we should do what makes US happy and not anyone else. Plus, I think it is smart to get to know your partner inside and out. Do you ever buy a shoe before trying it on? I don't :)

http://www.helium.com.(n.d).retreived/ May 28,2009:www.helium.com/debates/66022-should-couples-live-together-before-getting-married

http://www.probonson.com.(may2005/). Retreived May 28,2009:www.probonson.com/blog/2006/05/unmarried-couples-famlies-not-allowed 21.html

http://www.wlbt.com.(n.d.).retreived/ May 28, 2009: www.wlbt.com/global/story.asp?S=7971528

the road to success

I was browsing articles on the Internet when I came across this website http://www.msnbc.msn.com. In it, it explains some tips to have a successful "non married couple living together" relationship. The first tip was to make a domestic partner agreement which pretty much spells over everything from who takes out the trash, to who gets the house if the relationship ends. I thought this was interesting because although my boyfriend Chris and I do not have such a contract, we have an understanding about who does what. The next tip was to make sure that there was a financial plan. Chris and I have a 5 year plan that we are already 1 year and a half into. We are both going to school full time, working full time and splitting the bills.We have a very clear cut budget and we stuck to it almost perfectly. Once we are both finished school we plan to get better paying jobs, get a new apartment and maybe a new car for me (since I have an older car). The last tip was to have a joint bank account and yup we already did that too :) Basically, without knowing it, we are taking the right steps to make sure our relationship is successful. Kudos to us :)

http://www.msnbc.msn.com.(n.d/.). Retreived:May28,2009: www.msnbc.msn.com/id/8918526